"Look- I don't *want* to understand your position. You should have been glad for me that I was enjoying myself.
WOW... ok, total bozo-brain moment from him.
It should not be acceptable for him "not to want to understand you".
Sounds like you and he need to have a discussion (or 10) on what exactly it means to each of you to be in "a relationship", nevermind a marriage.
I totally agree with Dom R, that sentence pissed me off & I'm not married to him.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
