Cake eating or progress?

[Dom R]

However, riddle me this, Batman: If I tell him that I expect him to remove the profile, he might take that as me "mothering" (or smothering) him, or bossing him around, or fill in the blank with a negative conotation. I can totally picture him saying "You can't tell me what to do. I already told you we're exclusively dating. You're just gonna have to trust me." I worry that simply out of rebellion the whole thing could totally blow up.

oh, it will blow up.
the question is, are you going to be a creampuff about it or not.
hopefully, the answer to that question is "no".

and the answer to what HE said, is

"You LIED to me, and CHEATED on me. Trust you??? Hello no, buster. Trust is EARNED, and you havent earned it yet"

He wants me to be 'stronger' when HE wants me to be stronger. Not all the time.

"be careful for what you wish for, because you might get it".

Be stronger.

Back to the question- he doesn't respond well to being what he considers bossed- is there a better way to approach it?

yeah. point out that it isnt "bossing him", it's having reasonable expectations of a responsible, so-called "committed" adult. And if he cares to dispute the point, you'll be happy to discuss it with him in front of [married couple's name here].

If you keep doing everything HIS way, however he wants it... do you think that will result in you having a good marriage?

I'm thinking not.
A good behaviour, is where BOTH parties benefit. Not when one person gets anything and everything they want.