Help Me Act AS IF, Part 5

[mishka422]

LMG - WOW. You and I sound a lot alike. I was just saying the same thing basically on my thread last night. What in the world is so wrong with me that I failed as a wife and I'm failing as a mother?

I too tend to dwell in the negative. Today, when I got home from work I immediately changed by clothes and went outside to mow the grass. With the ipod screaming in my ears I can think while I work but then I end up back to dwelling.

What should we do about this? Acting "as if" only gets us so far. It gets exhausting being so fake all the time when you're dying inside. I have been trying to come up with a strategy for GAL but I'm not having any luck. My son is 13 and can be left for a while without much worry. I know it's much harder for you with two younger children. What activities have you found that you like to do by yourself?

You said all your friends are coupled, mine are too. I just finished a Divorce Care class and met some wonderful women. They have challenges with childcare too but we're hoping to get together next week for dinner. Have you looked for a support group in your area? Are you involved in a church?

Maybe we can come up with ideas for each other. We all have different ideas and maybe one will trigger another.

((((((LMG))))))