(((((Michelle)))))(((((Kalni)))))(((((Ali))))) I think if we added up all the kitchen chores and cooking, it probably comes out really close to 50-50. I do almost all of the cooking and cleaning on weekends, usually I make enough for leftovers on Monday, as well. I clean up several nights during the week, as well. I also prepare some meals during the week, on nights that she works. Sometimes she has got things set up so that the kids can take care of it. The kitchen might not always be cleaned to her standard, but it is clean, almost all the time. So, at least in my mind, the kitchen is the one place where she doesn't really have much room for complaint. Oh, one other thing, on the kitchen. Our house is very un-English! I can watch TV with then even if I am taking care of the dishes, so it isn't quite so bad. The kitchen looks out onto the family room.
I so all of the kids laundry, and mine. She has taken to doing hers, for whatever reason, I don't know.
As far as the assuming discussions, I am trying to change how I approach the situations, to see if the results are any different. SO, in this case, that meant, for me, leaving her the opening to say what she wanted to say, without reading from the usual script. The result wasn't very interesting, but it was a different approach. so, I guess what I am saying is that I am assuming that if I do what I always do, she will most likely do what she always does. So I am trying to do something different.
