Jeff, we are back to my favorite thing, decluttering. It seems to me that your wife has very specific things that annoy her. Now, they might not be things that are important to you, but they obviously are to her. So maybe, my friend, you could put aside for a little while the fact that you dont get why they mean so much to her, AND JUST DO ONE OF THEM. Just pick one of the things in the house that you know has been bothering her - and just fix it, clear it, clean it or get rid of it. I am positive that she will notice. She will feel that she was heard, ya know? Just do it.
And congrats on the no coke, the yoga, the eating better,and the counseling - you should be real proud of yourself.
