Cake eating or progress?

[Trixi]

Hey guys, thanks to all for chiming in.
To answer NikB's question about whether he announced we were exclusively dating- yes, it was an announcement on his part. I should have made that "joke" but he wouldn't have bought it anyway. He knows I want the marriage.

Thus far, I don't believe I am being 'used', but if this isn't nipped in the bud, I can see where it would end up that way.

Given how great Costa Rica (and the weekend after) was, there really *isn't* any good reason he should be on Match.

However, riddle me this, Batman: If I tell him that I expect him to remove the profile, he might take that as me "mothering" (or smothering) him, or bossing him around, or fill in the blank with a negative conotation. I can totally picture him saying "You can't tell me what to do. I already told you we're exclusively dating. You're just gonna have to trust me." I worry that simply out of rebellion the whole thing could totally blow up.

He wants me to be 'stronger' when HE wants me to be stronger. Not all the time.

When we had our argument on the trip it was about this--
There was an accident on the road that the tour bus could not get around so we had to sit and wait..and wait..and wait. H decided to "get up and stretch his legs" and went up front to talk with the tour director, one of the single girls, have a smoke. About 30 minutes goes by and the accident is moved far enough over that the bus can squeeze by. The tour director announces to the bus "Great news, we're on our way to the next stop- it will take us about 30-45 minutes to get there." At that point I had expected H to return to our seat. He didn't. In fact, he stayed up front until we got to the next place at which point he turned around and motioned for me to grab his backpack, and I maturely responded by sticking my tongue out at him and giving him major stink eye. Off the bus he says "What's your problem?!" and I said that I couldn't effing believe that he just left me back there like that, blah blah. He says "There is no way you can be serious about this. You're being ridiculous. You knew where I was. I was with you 24/7. I was involved in a convo. I shouldn't have to come back to you and say 'oh, I am in a convo, is that ok?' THIS is the EXACT kind of SH!T that drives me crazy about you. So and So from Arizona stayed up there taking to Other Single Girl and HIS wife didn't have a problem with it." UGH! Later when we discussed this further and I tried to explain my position [I felt abandoned; I had no book; the people around me were sleeping or reading] he said "Look- I don't *want* to understand your position. You should have been glad for me that I was enjoying myself. You're a big girl, you should have found something to do." My point in telling the story is that he did not appreciate me telling him that I thought he should have at least come back and said *something* to me. Maybe I *am* unreasonable with that thought. I dunno.

Back to the question- he doesn't respond well to being what he considers bossed- is there a better way to approach it?