Husband insists its over-what now? Please help!

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Lea... Cat03 is right I guess, and people said this to me, but its easy to say it when youre already in taht place! And I, like you, dont want to think I can be happy with someone else, as I am still committed to my BF. But maybe one day I will get to that point.

Anyway.. WOW !! So.. its not as clear cut as he has led you to believe!? Ok, so the pursueing him, reaching out, kissing isnt recommended, but it was in the context of an emotionally charged event.. so dont sweat it I say. Just use the knowledge that there are feelings lurking in him to keep you on track. I think if you step back, dont initiate contact, let him come to you, you may find he does ring, or text. When he does, be light and friendly and accept the contact. One thing I didnt do though (i think DB says you should though) is to say "I'm fine!", as I couldnt lie to him. So if he ever asked me how I was, I just evaded the question, or said,well, how was so and so today? - so threw it back to him.

I dont know what anyone else would advise, but I say, sit tight, DONT text or call him (he said he had backed off and didnt want to hug you becuase then he was afraid you would be texting him) and let him sit with his decision - this is important. He has to know what its like to miss you, know what it feels like to have made this decision to leave. So dont contact him! Wait and see what he does... If you feel weak, or tempted POST HERE!!! Thats what I did and I managed a whole month of NC, then he phoned me for a chat...

Ali xxx