[Well I have 2 girls so I know how challenging that can be. Do you have any other family that your daughter can live with where she would feel comfortable?
I know New Hampshire like the back of my hand having summered there my whole life and having grandparents that live there. Let's be real, if your child wants to find trouble she can find it anywhere. Sometimes rural settings are worse because drinking is THE #1 form of entertainment. Seeing she's been through a rough patch with her drinking, I would think that if she could stay off a main campus and go satellite until she gets a little bit more maturity under her belt, the easier it would be for you as a parent. I can see a definite change in my middle daughter with drinking from how she partied her freshman year until now in her senior year. In contrast, my youngest just turned 19 and she's partying all the time. I know because I get drunk dialed when she does. Believe me, if she's on her own, no matter where she goes, she will be faced with this.
Good Luck............
Bethie
Beth & FLTC, My D is also a senior and, yes, there's a huge difference in her partying attitude. Actually, she had such a great time one yr that she flunked most of her classes which is why she's still in college now!!! Beth is right about the rural areas having little entertainment but drinking. She will not shrivel up and die if she doesn't go to her #1 choice college. I agree with her getting a year or two under her belt before moving on with her education.
Facts is, W made the decision to D. That makes a difference in income. If W thinks is willing to do "anything" to get your D into that particular college, by all means let her. Make sure you're clear in your D settlement how much you're willing to pay and do not allow her to guilt you into any more than you're able to pay comfortably. And.....if she tries to lay a guilt trip on you about it, remind her how much it has cost you (vs her income) to get your D the therapy she's needed.
