Then perhaps you should handle it differently. E.g. ask her if there's something you can do, if she lists a bunch of stuff say that you understand her desire to have a clean house / nice garden whatever, that you wish you had more time, but that you can only do two things that day and ask if she can prioritize or pick two yourself. What I'm getting at is that she would feel heard and validated there. Because you not bringing it up doesn't make the problem go away in her mind.
Question - why do you say you'll do it when she is out? It seems like you try and accomplish a lot while she is gone, rather than when she is there. Of course, my thoughts are based solely on your posts, so I could be WAY off. But it seems to me that she sees you watch TV and play on your computer a lot and then you do things while she is at work or out and expect her to notice them.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
