Good distinction - when I was home, I spent all time with the kids - actually, my kids and I have a great relationship. CW, your are right on, it was the fact that I ignored HER and didn't validate HER - I wish I could talk to your H's! It is so obvious now to me, but apparently too late.

You are right sticking to your guns - I would do the same exact thing. Trust me, he will try and make you feel guilty, and if was successful in the past, he will be unless you hold your ground.

CBK


M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19
Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16
Divorce final 10/09