Trixi - long time no talk but I've been reading to catch up.

Dom - agreed 100%!!!!

Trixi he is using you and you are totally letting him. He doesn't get to "announce" the terms of your R whenever he decides he wants something different. Not to mention.. like Dom says, he's going to tell you after the fact, anyway.

As of XYZ date you were "dating exclusively" according to him. Did he ASK you about it or TELL you about it? I honestly think your response to that could have been a (joking but dead serious) "Oh REALLY? I'm not so sure about that." (or something along those lines). It needs to be clear to him, and you, that YOU HAVE CHOICES too.

In a month he could easily tell you "Well yeah, we were exclusively dating for 3 weeks there - that was before I decided we were no longer exclusively dating for this past week."

Please please please don't let him do this to you.

(((Trixi)))


Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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