Thanks FG for the kudos. I'm trying to stay in that mind set. However, today is payday for him and he owes me money. So, I'm going to be delicate, but firm with him. Ugggh I hate asking for the money.

ST - I get what you are saying. And, in some ways it makes me happy to know that those material things put a smile on my face. However, it DOES NOT make me happy to know that he isn't taking care to save money for the baby. I am. And, funny thing is after we got our tax refund back, the only thing I bought for myself was a pair of sunglasses. Last night he saw them and said, "oh, new sunglasses? You never bought anything when we were together because you always said we didn't have any money". I just politely said, "I got tax money back too. I bought sunglasses and put the rest in savings." So, I guess he is free to do as he will with his money (or should I say OW's money because I KNOW she pays for everything). But, you would have been proud of me, I complimented him on how he looked on his motorcycle (ego boost - gag) and I complimented his motorcycle, as well. I kept that smile on my face and didn't even let on that it was driving me crazy. But, I just kept reminding myself..."this is HIS debt and NOT mine, anymore". That is a plus.


M 5yrs
1st baby-girl born 6/18/08
Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego
H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07
D Final 07/10
OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her
Me, now - happier than I ever was with him