Hey! I own this car too! We don't want to ruin too badly. The plan for tonight is to go to guitar lessons (even though I didn't practice and the lesson won't be very fun since I didn't do what I was supposed to do), get something to eat, go to the library and work on the book I am writing. Get home and throw some of H's junk in a bag/box and put it on the porch. Double lock all of the doors and lock all of the screen doors.
That is as far as I have gotten thinking this through. What do I do when H comes pounding on the door in the wee hours of the morning? Ignore him? Go to the door and say "go away until you can get your act together?" Should I leave a note on the door saying "I've had it. Goodbye."
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
file and show him whatever paperwork they give you when you file, put it with his damn things on the porch.
I'm sorry you are going through this hon, going dark on him just allowed him to do whatever the heck he wanted without being accountable to you about where he's been.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
I'm so glad you've decided to go to your guitar lesson. It might be more fun than you think.
I'm not sure if you need to leave a note. I might just ignore him if he knocks (if it's possible) - you sent him a text earlier that said he wouldn't welcome home tonight, so he knows where you are emotionally with his behavior. If his knocking cannot be ignored, I would just tell him go away until he can treat you like you deserve to be treated.
If the car wasn't half yours, I'd send you some shrimp paste from Malaysia called Belechan. This is by far the stinkiest, most vile smelling substance on the face of the planet.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Oh my goodness, I just want this to be over with already. Here is the TM I received from him at some point today (I hadn't checked my phone until just now)
"I just need time to myself. I still luv u. U have no legal right to kick me out. I call police"
I don't even know what I would respond to him if I responded. I want to tell him "No legal right! But you have a right to treat me like sh%$!!! You have a right to put me through all this?? Who the f$%@ do you think you are?!?! Go ahead jerk. Call the police, see if I care. If I had to spend the night in jail at least I wouldn't have to deal with your sorry butt coming in at 5am to do your laundry!" But yeah, I am not going to say that. I just needed to vent that out. I am just ignoring it and going ahead and locking the door.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I really think he is just trying to get to you. Even if he did call the police, they would not arrest you. At the very worst they would come to the house and tell you that you have to let him in.
Be strong Sara, he is trying to manipulate you. It has always worked in the past, don't let it work this time.
and maybe something to rattle when he takes a corner.
It took me a sec to figure out that you meant when he took a corner with the car, have something in the glove box that would rattle....At first, I thought you meant she should give him a baby rattle when he cowers into a corner! DUH!!
Sara, Kris is right. He IS definitely trying to manipulate you, and so far, he has succeeded in doing so.
Put a stop to it. Please. You are worth a lot and deserve so much more than what he is dealing you.
(((((((Be Strong)))))))
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
Sara it's Jeff from St Louis, I was just checking in on you to say goodnight. (((SARA)) hate to see you this way, looks like you had a bad day today
Please Please be careful, I don't like to post stuff like this, but you should protect yourself. Its getting to the point where you both seem angry with each other, threats, etc.
LAAW CRISIS LINE: 314-535-5229 800-527-1460 Legal Advocates for Abused Women (LAAW) is the first domestic violence agency in the greater St. Louis area to specialize in providing free legal representation to victims of domestic violence who seek Orders of Protection (OP).
The purpose of an OP is to protect someone who is in fear of abuse, and to alert the police to respond immediately. If you are not fearful of abuse, there are other ways to accomplish the items mentioned. You may be wondering what "abuse" is. Abuse includes, but is not limited to: beating, strangling, shoving hair pulling, harassment, punching, suicide, threats, slapping, isolation, sexual assault, name calling, humiliation, threats of harm, stalking, insults
Please be careful Sara, please protect yourself, I'm getting tired so I'll say goodnight - Jeff from St Louis
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 Merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 no sex yet ?? hoping !!! let me hope !! WHAMMO - W moving out June 1st
DUH!! 