Farmgirl, I think it's fine that you're posting on the Piecing forum. There is no consensus as far as a definition of Piecing. IMO, it sounds like you two are not quite yet Piecing, though the distance between the two of you is lessening.
I wouldn't get too caught-up in whether or not you fit the Piecing category. What's most important is that you maintain your GAL activities, and cultivating a happiness mindset.
I think you're right to consider when and how you should spend time with your H. If there isn't potential for it to be enjoyable or constructive, than time apart is the better option.
I can understand your ambivalence about the M, however he is showing signs of life, so hopefully he is getting to a place where Piecing can begin to occur in the M.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
