So I told H yesterday I dont think it's a good idea for us to keep trying to work on our M right now. I still want him more than anything, but it's not fair to me and I dont want to keep doing this. I told him as long as he has contact with OW and continues to only care about himself this will not work. When he is completly ready to work this out and give it everything we can try then. I'm tired of the rollercoaster ride! H claims he has not talked to OW since I got the last phone bill....we will see. I hope I'm doing the right thing, I know he has been trying and things are getting better BUT I guess I think he needs to completly break it off it's been 6-7 months with OW now and that's plenty. H needs to decide what he wants and stick to it.