he's now gone and getting apartment

[cw68]

Comparison shopping isn't that unusual, nor is it to hassle the car salesman. IMO, you can't expect to just smartly buy a car on a dime. Especially with Soobs (of which I am on my third. I'm a serial Subaruer).

He's getting a car so you can have one, he knows you're not in NYC anymore.

I'm sure there's another way you can get the car. When my H and I bought our first car together, we actually picked it up the next day after they detailed it, we didn't just drive away with it.

Relax. Breathe and count to ten. As many times as you need to. Patience grasshopper.