My thought is, "look around." If you see dishes in the sink, do them. If you see the floor looks dirty, vacuum or mop. Are men really that clueless?
In a word, yes. My W always felt the same way, but I needed direction with housework. Probably stubbornness and laziness on my part also, but don't be afraid to ask him for specific help.
No separate accounts? That's very interesting. It really doesn't sound like he wants a D. That's good. I know that cake-eating can be a concern in sitches like yours, but part of DB'ing is to not worry about that. At least, as far as I know. Do DB and DR talk about that? (I'm ashamed to say I haven't finished either one yet).
You're doing great. If he really is OCD, he noticed the bathrooms. He may only tell you about the negatives, but he's noticing the positive changes you're making. Keep it up!
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
