Hello all. Locked another one. Thanks for the support!
Spent the day at the zoo today with D3. She had a 'make up day' coming to her since her sister got a field trip to the zoo with Mommy in tow. I find getting out of the house really helps my attitude, so I am going to keep that up.
H's family is very disappointed in him, and he is not speaking to anyone at all. In fact, he hung up the phone on a cherished aunt just last week. Wow. Nothing I can do. Not my mess. I enjoy a non-crazy life.
I was distant last night with H. I was exhausted and tired of him stopping by (lol). I always welcome him and do nothing for him to feel uncomfortable, but he is so distant with me, so I am done for now with the LWB Show. He noticed my distance, I told him I was fine, just tired.
Zoo's are fun! im glad you had a good day with d3.
yes getting out of the house gives you a different frame of mind. i agree.
yes he sure has made mess of things, i don't understand how he wants you to act really, after everything he has done, you would think he would have some shame.. that's what makes them so crazy!
I would not re-adjust my attitude either. i would just go on and do my thing like he isn't even there with you when he stops by, pay him no mind.. Its really sad that he is in a totally different place..
But you are in a better one, and I would just stick to your plan.
your doing great!
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
tal, thanks. I am so grateful to be a LBS instead of a WAS. Truly I am. And yes, I am tired of trying to be his friend. He sure doesn't deserve me as a friend. I will continue to be open about the kids, because he does that for me as well. But that's about it. No friend of mine would do what he has done/is doing to me.
no they wouldn't, not a real friend anyway. your lucky that you are able to support yourself and your d's, i think if i was finacially able to I might have left already. but the welfare of my kids would be in his hands (money wise) and i wouldn't want to count on him that way.
Im trudging through. im pretty sure when s2 goes to kindergarten (which is some time away) i will get regular job, like i had before, Although I love being a sahm... I hate the fact that he is the breadwinner. i worked for 11 years before i quit to be with son#1, now its just i do things for the business, which is not seperate from my life with him. i do need something of my own... i will just have to wait.
sorry to spew off like that.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
TAL, I can understand what you mean about ending it sooner with your H if you had financial means. I *could* support them, but just barely. Almost 'too scary' barely. So I will have to rely on H for some things. But I know what you are saying. I totally get it.
Don't think of it as waiting to get a job, think of it as the important time with your sons in their early years. This is why I put up with 4-5 hours sleep at night, so I can be there for them during the day.
No need to apologize for spew. That's all I do on here...
I guess i said that wrong. i wouldn't give up my time with them for 1 million dollars because i will never get these times back. i do think they are better people because i am here for them everyday all day. I have serious reservations about My H ever having them for such long periods of time. granted, i know he loves them, but he has not patience and doesnt understand why they get all wild when he gets home... duh, they missed you, you idiot!
They are definately mommy's boys... they get jealous even when my h hugs me... its really cute, but i do think it does threaten him a bit, just becuase they are so attached to me.. and your right lwb.. i do lean on them also, if i didn't have them i would totally fall apart.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
lwb... going to try and get to bed.. this is really late for me.. i posted back to you and my stitch.. have a quiet night and will talk to you in the mornig...
nite nite
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
They are definately mommy's boys... they get jealous even when my h hugs me... its really cute, but i do think it does threaten him a bit, just becuase they are so attached to me
Oh yes!! I have Mama girls here. H could come and go, in and out of the house all day long and they wouldn't question it. I get up to walk to the kitchen and get 5 questions. I wouldn't trade it either, my tal.
I don't know if H is threatened or not, but he realizes our bond is really strong. I try not to isolate him (I yell "Daddy's home! Yay!", etc). D3 is more attached to Daddy than D6.
I wouldn't trade it either, my tal.