CBK, don't think so much about trying to slide into an opening in her heart. Just try to be her friend. Yes, I want my marriage to lack with my husband. But he's on a path that only he can find. In the meantime, I want to get along with him. I want him to see that we can get along. Period. Just try that. Tell her that you just want to get along to just get along. Then back off, waaaay off. When you do chat, ask questions that require more than a Yes/No answer. Don't pepper her with questions, but provide little openings in conversation with her. "What did you think about dinner?" Pedestrian conversation, perhaps, but it will make you both more comfortable around you. Let the elephant in the room be the elephant in the room. (Something I'm trying to learn.)
I'm glad to hear you're feeling better. That's always good.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
