Ya Dodo.... I can relate to that perspective. Perhaps not as clearly defined as your experience but I do see more tolerance for the WAW than the WAH. Perhaps given the expectation for a many to be the "Spiritual Head of the House" it is more an abdication of responsibility in this context. In addition, I can't help but believe that some women can portray themselves as the hapless victims of their "opressive men" (sorry ladies... I am not painting all with same brush... just giving a narrow viewpoint of some I have experienced).
I think some women have an easier time rationalizing themselves and being viewed as vicitms. I am probably ruffling some feathers by stating so. I am speaking largely from my ex's perspective too. She rationalized this way. "I got married too young. He is never around. He changed since we first got married. etc, etc." While none of these are necessarily incorrect, they do not represent a balanced perspective.
Again.... sorry ladies if this is offensive.
I simply agree that there appears to be more empathy and less judgement for a woman walking away from a "Christian" marriage than a man.... in my experience anyway.
Chaz,
Very true..... I KNOW that is the card my exWAW played..... It is funny how everything is fine..... Then, in a moment, they have been unhappy for years and have a myriad of complaints.... Yet, no one is sane enough to ask, "Did you ever talk to him about your feelings? Did you ever ask him to go to counseling? Why did you just leave?" They just accept what they say as truth.... No thought, no logic......
When it comes down to it..... When you ARE a Christian, give me scriptural reasons for divorcing..... If they are NOT in the Bible, they are just excuses NOT reasons.... As you well know, excuses are like a$$holes.... Everyone has one and they all stink.....
I guess from a more Liberal view, I could potentially see a "Christian" couple divorcing after really trying, going to counseling and giving 100% to making it work for years..... There may be some cases where it will not work..... HOWEVER, the real catch here is BOTH parties must be giving it their all.... NOT looking around.... NOT dating...... REALLY working on the M.... This is certainly NOT the case with WASs.......
Take Care,
NMD
Last edited by No_More_Dodo; 05/09/0803:48 PM.
"Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years. That is what makes a marriage last --more than passion or even sex!" - Simone Signoret
