There is another hypothesis you can consider here too, Potato. That is, if you are too much of a Mr. Nice Guy, too much of a "door mat," you can actually turn your wife off sexually by not being 'strong,' independent, or masculine enough. In other words, women are attracted to and turned on by masculinity in the same way that men are attracted to and turned on by femininity.
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This was not, however, the path the I had to walk, so I'll let Strong & Alive or Puppy Dog Tails tell you more about it, and see if the situation is more fitting to yours.
Take care,
Bagheera
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Me 50, W 45, M for 26 yrs S25, D23, S13, S10 20+ year SSM; recovery began Oct 2007
