write down if you deserve any money (just an example question) and why or why not.
I'm really just jealous of the way ex spends money on GF! That is not being very logical I know!
I have a verbal job offer.....hope to get something a little more concrete in the next day or two. I don't want to resign from my current job until I know the details.
Had some sad moments this week.....ex launched the boat and it just reminded me that he left this time a year ago and lived on the boat until he moved in w GF. The boat was supposed to bring us together when we bought it. OOPS!
Trying to keep open communication is proving to be difficult. I am continually informing him about D17 and school issues, but D17 and her dad want to keep everything secret from me. (D17 has told me her dad told her not to tell me anything!) I sent him a text message the other day asking him something about the house. It was not urgent. He complained about me texting instead of calling (he has unlimited tm so it wasn't about the cost). I told him I thought the tx msg was less intrusive and more respectful (not knowing if he was w GF!). On the flip side he still wants to come over whenever he wants. I was late going to work the other day and he showed up. I said, "I thought you were going to call first". His reply was "I didn't expect you to be home so I didn't think it would matter". I am trying to set up boundaries, but it's a slow process.
Sounds like you may need to have the locks changed. How dare your H not respect that as YOUR home, not his.
And I was frustrated when I wrote the above entry! Actually the house IS in HIS name. We agreed in the divorce settlement that he could have liberal use of the house, but he was supposed to give me 2 hours notice. He hasn't changed his address so bill, etc come to him at this address. I need to work on setting boundaries!
I wonder if the way he treats you is because every part of your home life is an open book to him persay. He comes and goes as he pleases ignoring the 2 hour notice and doing what he wants. Then he and D have secrets that she can't talk about.(his life is closed to you) Sounds like he has everyone right where he wants them for the moment and I feel it is very selfish of him.
Maybe try setting those boundries and when he does come over maybe make sure you look awesome and go out the door when he shows up and make him wonder what secret you have. Have a plan with a friend, you'll feel good I swear to you. It's a PMA pick me up.
((((((MAT))))))
Really, Thank you for being there for me right now!
JAK
Last edited by jak58; 05/06/0812:47 PM.
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