Cake eating or progress?

[Trixi]

I feel fine asking if we're dating exclusively because he brought it up about a month back by announcing that we were dating exclusively and he wasn't looking elsewhere. Part of the tizzy I am having right now is based on that announcement.

And you're right, I don't want a premature ending to something good that might have been forming, but I also don't want to be an idiot. I am overlooking the two women he slept with that were "half my age" because I know his frame of mind was that we were on a fast track to divorce and he considered himself to be single. If he is back out there trying to hook up with more women, then I need to drop out of his life.

I feel ridiculous asking my HUSBAND of nearly 11 years for clarification on our DATING status, but I am also not interested in catching any diseases or being played the fool. And he'll probably say his usual "I don't know. I am taking things day by day. I like how things are going right now." and "your lease goes until December."

My mom sent an email to me that I read in Costa Rica, that unfortunately my H read too. It basically said, "I hope your H realizes what a wonderful person you area, blah blah blah, and that he misses you. Of course, you have to make it so he has a chance to miss you." (IOW, cut him off.) On the way to the airport on our last day, H says "you're not going to do what your mom says are you?" I say "?" and he says "Well, you know. Make me miss you." I say "what made you think of that?" and he says "Because I want to see more of you, not less."

But that's not really how it's working out right now.

I'm just tired. And feel triply disappointed at the match discovery on the heels of our trip. For God's sake- what else does he want?!?