If he's been on some crazy MLC journey and is just beginning to maybe head home, pressure is typically NOT a good thing.
I'm sorry for the pain and how crazy it drives you. It would me too. This is where you have to be willing to look at the bigger picture rather than knee jerk reaction your way into a blow up that sets you back to the beginning of your situation.
You snooped. And you snooped at a time that there was not a clear cut commitment to restoring your relationship (unless I missed that part somewhere). The upside to snooping is that we get knowledge. The downside to snooping is what that knowledge sometimes turns out to be.
Personally, I might be willing to ask him if the two of you are dating exclusively. Truth be told, even that seems rather childish for two people who have been married. But I certainly would not point out the information that you found out. Perhaps a general comment if he responds in a positive way, that indicates that you would like him to please let you know if he changes his mind about being "exclusive."
Sometimes you have to let it go in order to see where things are actually heading.
You don't want to put a premature ending to something good that might have been forming.
Just my opinion.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
