It sounds like you have a seesaw limbo in a pretty park. Does your husband suffer from anxiety.. commitment phobia.. his own fears of how he'll be accepted?
Ooops.. strike that.. that's thinking for him!
How about.. where are you now? How do you feel about how this is progressing? What improvements do you see? What do you want to see? What three small actionable goals will you set?
When I read your post, I see the hope and belief that radiates from your words. You sound like a very kind, gracious, loving woman, wife and mother. What seems right to you, Ms Whey?