Husband insists its over-what now? Please help!

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Lea!
You;re not waffling...dont apologise! I think there is more going on here, he cant be as over it as he seems.. otherwise, why the need for the cold tone on the phone? He is blocking out any feelings as a way to cope with his decision. You havent done anything wrong, as far as you have said here, this is all about him, so theres no need for him to be like that with you! So the reason must lie with him, I'm not making much sense, but...

Well, he has thrown himself into a new life at the moment, but 6 weeks is a short time, you have to wiat and see if the novelty of it all wears off. Lisa is right, it would have appeared over for her too and her H had an aubergine, but look at them 6 months later, he is calling her and snogging her in pubs and all sorts! Ok, they're not back on, but they're not lost touch either. But then, Lisa DBed like a pro.

Got to go, but I dont blame you for feeling low about it all and thinking he is your soulmate, I have that too. Its so maddening that guys can go off and hang out with their mates and go down the pub and go to festivals in a gang (my BF is off to Glastonbury!!) and appear to be having a very nice life thankyou very much, whilst we sit at home missing them and wondering what the hell happened.. BUT.. both your H and my BF have had long term emotional problems that stem back to childhood and are suffereing from depression. I dont really understand it as I've never had it, but from what I've been told.. we are the lucky ones in this sitch for NOT having that ! Whatever problems he had in an R with you will still exist if he gets into an R with this OW, and he'll be on the rebound to boot.. so dont torture yourself that they will live happily ever after, cos I'm betting that they wont...

Thinking of you!
Ali xxx