In my humble opinion, you give him too much credit.

I don't buy the "he doesn't have anywhere else to stay." If he truly loved his family and missed his family, yet felt he was too messed up inside to be with them, he would find somewhere else.

The fact that he is sleeping with her still makes it very clear that this is NOT just a place to stay.

I'm sure he'd like you to believe that though.

Doesn't really matter. Not trying to argue with you. More than anything I just want to encourage you along the lines that it is perfectly ok to insist that it's time he made a decision.

A nice first step would be for him to say "I can't come home, but I can't stay here anymore. It's not right. I'm going to find SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE that I can stay. Even if it's a shelter somewhere." THAT would make me believe that this is just him still feeling too messed up to be with you all.

For crying out loud, pitch a tent in a campground somewhere if you're being THAT noble about this.

Infidelity is wrong. Sweeping it under the rug is not somehow noble or a sign of great strength. It comes perilously close to treating yourself like a doormat.

I support you 100% in your stand. I want you to understand that. These are my opinions, for what they are worth.


Blessings,

Bill

"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."