What's he going to think? If he going to think you were snooping, or checking upon him? Or was that part of the deal?
I was checking up on him; the only other reason I would be on match would be to find a date, and isn't that what I don't want him to be doing if we're dating exclusively? Removing profiles from dating sites was not part of the deal, but it wasn't NOT part of the deal either.
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On the whole, I think I like it, but you have to be ready for the answer you don't want to hear. Are you?
No, probably not ready for an answer I don't want to hear..but I would expect ANYONE I am dating exclusively to remove their profile....ah- and *there* is the potential bugaboo. He could then say "ok. then we aren't dating exclusively." ..... and then I could say ....??
About a month back he said he sometimes felt guilty because he was continuing to see me and not just leaving me be. I responded with "you should only feel guilty if you are using me as a stop-gap while you look for someone else" and he said "no, that's not the case." Given that convo and the "we're dating exclusively" convo, I think it is reasonable to say I am not comfortable with him having an active match profile. The part of me that is scared of losing him completely says "who cares about a match profile? He could meet someone anywhere, anytime. leave it be. don't rock the boat."
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
