wow. I guess I missed the part about him still contacting her. I thought they had quit sometime ago. ??? and that he was EAing with that other girl for a while instead.

soooo, I do see why he keeps saying just friends. In a guy's mind, it's only an R or A if he touches her. Obviously we know better, but I don't think he really gets it, and I imagine he's thinking it's just you that has a problem with it, what's the big deal.

Hopefullly he will agree going to MC. I know my H didn't, but maybe yours will! plus the fact that he actually went b4...

The thing that I learned thru my sitch, okay, 1 of the million things, is that everyone has their own perspective. While one person is offended by some word, another is not...or one person is hurt by an action, where the other doesn't care a bit. So really it's all in the eye of the beholder so hopefully there will be a way, whether it be an MC, or something you do or say that will open your H's eyes to how it really does hurt you, and your M.

Hope your having a wonderful evening, and don't worry about the wedding, just go to have a great time...talk H up too, if he likes that.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."