Drowning, still...

[cw68]

I do know that area, my next door neighbors used to live in San Ramon. I'm outside of Sacto.

Don't tell her you're going to work your butt off, just do it. Just like them, actions speak louder than words.

Yeah, I was pretty peeved earlier. H came over for dinner tonight and to help with the two extra kids who are staying the night tonight. My mood wasn't great, but I pulled out of it OK. At one point, though, I did say that I didn't feel appreciated. But it all ended well enough.

This may seem contrary to regular thought, but can you move out of the bedroom? I was so adamant against separating that this wasn't even a thought of mine. H moved to the guest room for a week before he said he had to separate. We briefly discussed an in-house separation. By briefly I mean an hour. We talked about, I suggested it because I sooo didn't want him to move out. He said he was up for trying it. I went up to the bedroom and came back downstairs 30 minutes later and said that it wouldn't be a good idea. This was after I kicked a hole in the wall. Yes, I admit it, though this stupid drywall is very easily damaged. Every other house I've ever lived in had lathe and plaster and it's tough, not that I've kicked walls a lot mind you, but I'm a klutz and know I've hit walls harder than my foot did that time. If I knew a hole would have "appeared" I would have kicked it a lot harder! I digress.

Giving your W some space might be what she needs. It's usually the opposite of what we need though, so it's tough. But I thought I'd throw that out there.