Sunny,
At least he recognizes that he is scared. What he doesn't know is WHY he is scared. If he is the reading type, my advice is to hand him a copy of "Awakening at Mid-life" by Kathleen Brehony and tell him to call you when he has figured it all out!

I do empathize, my W finally admitted a few months ago "I don't know who I am." A starting point I suppose, but as you pointed out, this is not an attractive phase of MLC, if there is one!

Take care of yourself.
SD

Me 41
W 41
Kids: S9 S7
Married 16 years
Bomb dropped 2/2/07
Still living together!
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