Irma, Don't know what other site you were on. I was on another site before I found this one. Most of the people on it were very negative. I got the same response -- to forget my H and move on! I didn't. I found this site. We're still together. So, definitely stick around here. You'll get lots of support and advice. Opinions on what to do will vary. But you know your sitch, so think through the replies and apply what works for you.
If your H is living 900 miles away, I see that as a blessing and a curse. You know OW is not there with him! Since you have a daughter, he'll be visiting you more, and you him.
If this is his second A with this woman, you know it didn't work with them the first time, right? What makes him think it will work this time? How long ago was his first A with her and how long did it last?
I don't know of anyone who's experienced 2 A's with the same person on this board. There are those whose WAS had more than one A, with different people.
You said you spoke with a coach. That's great. If you have not gotten the book yet, definitely do that.
It's hard to be upbeat when it feels like you're heart is being ripped out. But do the best you can. Be the person he wants to be with. And GAL! It will also help your D13.
