Now this daycare thing is crazy. Does he realize what kind of message he will be sending to D4? Now that would not be the way to phrase the question to him, but I am sure LO knows this is not a good thing to do during this period for D4's emotional being. It will just confuse her more, and she is confused enough.
I like the idea of payback and have some GAL fun. I always use the kids as a guideline. I will not do anything that I would not approve of my kids doing. I still want to be a good example for the kids even when the other person is not.
Besides the insanity of that stupid daycare suggestion, you do not want to "save money" right now. During divorce you do not want to change your lifestyle or spending habits. Also, DO NOT ALLOW THIS!!! He may try to use it to gain full-custody of your daughter with OW as the full-time mom. Yikes!!!
Can you drive your daughter to day care? If necessary spend more money to have her go earlier, or work later or less so you can do this.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
You know - on this daycare issue? Get some GOOD legal advice, please.
I don't think it's as common anymore, but there was a period of time when the backlash against working mothers was such, that a man could dump his wife (forcing her to go to work) then marry the OW, and since OW was a SAHM, get primary custody of the child based on the argument that it was better for the child not to be in daycare!
