Finding DB late in the game #4

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I get half of my H's 401k, but I haven't been earning any cashola for social security (not that I think it'll be around by the time I can retire), let alone the advancement in my career and experience I've given up. Luckily, I have been able to be active in things I can put on my resume, but still. It's a b*tch. I can guarantee you I will try to take him for as much as I can should we divorce as I believe I've earned it. He's been able to advance as far as he has as quickly as he has as a parent because I've been here. He's never had to turn down a business trip (a lot) or a business dinner because of the kids. He could stay late, do whatever, even though he had kids because my job was to take care of them. He soooo owes me.