Finding DB late in the game #4

[cw68]

It does. My back stinks and yoga totally helps. I, too, go to yoga at our club. I love it!

[CBK]

It was funny, Yoga was one of my 180's. I was always too embarrassed to go - this "guys guy" going to yoga... what a farce. They have several classes and the insturctors are like - do what you are comfortable doing - so some days, I really push myself, others, I try and relax trying to get negative thoughts out of head. I actually have metal plate in back, and instructor was vey nervous at first, but I feel great, then go hit the steam bath - that feels great.

Hope you are doing well CW. I just hoped a plane to SFO then hour drive home... groan. Have to act "as if" when I get there!

CBK

[cw68]

I'm having a very good day today. I went shopping for summer clothes. Needed to get new things for my new body and for a trip to NYC I'm taking in June. Wow, do I feel good. As I was coming home listening to the radio in the car I thought, "What a jerk." My H has been such a jerk! WE'RE not broken. He was broken and then he broke us. He's the one who doesn't see my value. All his talk last fall about me being lazy, fat, having "smarts I'm not using" by being a SAHM: bugger off H. He's the one with a gem in his hands that he's thinking of letting go. I'm mad as hell right now. It feels really good.

[CBK]

CW - right on. Love that attitude - spread it around! I need to get there as well! Guess I will go to the range and get my frustrations out!

Impressive.

CBK

[Virtually_Handsome]

(((((cw)))))
You know what? I HATE the attitude that a SAHM is not using her smarts, and is somehow inferior. I think W got that from "them", and it is one reason she has gone back to work. It's also one reason I think she is insecure, she doesn't feel that her "job" for the last 20 years was valued by "society". Grrrrrrr!

[cw68]

Ticks me off, too. Never in a million years would have thought my H would have felt that way, but this was back when he was having his EA; I swear he was comparing me to her. Or some other "dream" girl he didn't have. Or his DINK friends, like his boss who is the CTO of the (big) company and his wife who's partner in a law firm.

Not only does it make me mad in general, because whatever "smarts" we are not using we are making up for by using compassion and other important attributes, but I wasn't just a SAHM. Last year, with another Mom and a teacher, I wrote a federal grant and secured $91k for our school for a three-year program, I sit on the steering committee of a regional non-profit AND I was appointed to a city position by our city council. It's not like I've been eating bon bons and watching soaps. In the past I've held BOD positions on other non-profits, this isn't something new.

AURGH. I am seriously ticked off. Then my daughter says, "Hey Mom -- ANTS!" and the kitchen/family room is crawling with them. "I told Dad this morning, he said he'd take care of them." He didn't. The floor has crumbs all over it, there's food on the counter and the table's dirty from breakfast. Not that big of a deal on a regular day, but not on a day where there's ANTS!

So, I'm off to clean up the ants. Somehow.

JERK.

[MichelleLT]

(((cw))) You got it all right, down to the jerk part!

[JenInVen]

Ay CW! They can be such sh!ts. You see, they think that if we aren't working 10 hour days then we're doing nothing. JERK is right!

About the ants...little bitty ones or the ugly black ones? They LOVE sugar so lock that away. I remember you used to be able to buy ant traps. My Mom had them for the cottage. I imagine you can get them anywhere.

Jen

[Virtually_Handsome]

(((((cw)))))
You would be great even without the extra activities! A real SAHM doesn't sit around eating bon bons and watching soaps!

It's easy for families that have chosen to have a stay at home parent to feel a bit jealous of the DINKs, but I bet a lot of them are jealous right back!

Good luck with the ants!

[JenInVen]

I second the jealous bit

Jen