NTE, You are right and I know he is coming from a good place... no pun intended...
But he also makes it clear that if I do not come then I must not be enjoying myself and that simply is not true. I am enjoying myself and sure an orgasm is the best but to me the getting there is 80 % of the fun and he at times is so focused on the "O" for me it seems he is not enjoying the "ride" there. Do you see what I mean ? What are your thoughts on that?
I will admit I used to use a lot of excuses for why we had no time to have sex.... the kids ... the laundry.
~ all things that are insignificant now that my eyes are open.
Ml is very intimate obviously and the connection was missing even though the chemistry has always been there.
But like you said about the ego.. I am working on self soothing and self validation. Because I ~ 90% of the time do not get any from him during lovemaking. To be very direct and to the point he says because his "*****" is hard that should be proof enough that what I am doing for him is good. I would like more from him I.E. maybe a little tiny eensy weensy moan here and there ....something.....anything........and we have talked about this over and over and he says it is simply soemthing he cannot do and I need to accept this..... I on the other hand let him know it is good in may ways ....
So I must accpet this as part of him and work on not needing that...... So I must keep looking for solutions and the one that does come to mind is I must just go in and do him for me but sometimes he does just get in the way...... The best times we have had in the recent months are when he isnt trying to follow some script.. when he really and truly lets me do him. Do I make any sense?
