Great news on working on the goals. I can't wait to see them!
Originally Posted By: lea123
Another bad thing is that he is planning to go to Download festival next month with his friends-and OW is in that gang and going. I am having visions of them sharing a tent and much more. Not sure if I can deal with that.
You can, and you will. Try thought stopping- saw someone posted on it to you in Newcomers? It's a great technique, and it gets easier with time. It's good that they won't be alone, on the plus side. I know that's scant consolation though. Vent here, and we'll rally round.
Originally Posted By: lea123
When he phones I am being upbeat, and I am not initiating contact with him.
Perfect- this is exactly what you need to do. He's noticing it for sure, and him moving further away/being cold *could* be a way to try and get a reaction out of you. He is also dealing with his depression, and it sounds like some other issues too. He will probably withdraw before he is able to reconnect with you. Speaking of withdrawal etc, have you read the 6 stages of MLC as posted by Hearts Blessing? They're in the MLC resources and are definitely worth a read.
Originally Posted By: lea123
I can't imagine my life without him, but feel that he needs space to sort his head out.
That is so right!
BTW, I think your FIL sounds pretty great! Ignore what H has said to him about the R; the WAS has to seem strong in their decisions to justify them. However, it's unlikely that they actually are so strong. My MIL told me she thought it was over for me and H because that's what H had told her/she just thought it. But it wasn't true, and I doubt it's true for your H either.
((((Lea)))) You sound like you're doing brilliantly!
