Maybe you and your H can assign all of the household responsibilites and if your H neglects his duties, either just let those things go or hire someone to take care of them if you can. What are your ideas?
Besides Jack's suggestion of trading sexual favors for doing work around the house , you mean? I've been thinking that I certainly can't control him, what he says or what he actually does. All I can control is my reaction and my expectations. I am leaning toward expecting him to do nothing and being grateful when he does do something. I just wish he would say "No, I'd rather not paint the ceiling. Can we hire someone?" Then I wouldn't spend my time and energy wondering when it's going to get done.
Originally Posted By: Upside
It sounds like things are moving along nicely for you and your H. Has he moved everything out of his condo yet?
No, not yet. He still has another month there because he had to give notice. He's moved the essentials back home, but not everything. He didn't bring too much there in the first place, but bought what he found that he needed after leaving.
And he's still not wearing his ring. I think that's my first new goal.
, you mean? I've been thinking that I certainly can't control him, what he says or what he actually does. All I can control is my reaction and my expectations. I am leaning toward expecting him to do nothing and being grateful when he does do something. I just wish he would say "No, I'd rather not paint the ceiling. Can we hire someone?" Then I wouldn't spend my time and energy wondering when it's going to get done. 
