Pregnant and heading for acceptance #2

[JennyF]

I think those are great points from Chris regarding the emotions. Plus...just accept the emotion when it hits and it will probably subside easier. What you resist persists.

I'm trying to just sit back and be patient.

Yes you have to sit back. And yes you have to patient.
BUT be careful with this because it also implies that you are sitting back and being patient while waiting for your H to come to his senses. And THAT is an expectation. That is what has you spinning in emotion because when it isn't happening, you replay the wrongness over and over.
Again, it's acceptance. Acceptance means no expecations from your H whatsoever. You have to figure out how to be okay if he doesn't come to his senses. You have to make that happen for yourself. Until you start to live your life for yourself, you will not stop spinning in the emotions. IMO.

You are going to have a baby. You are going to be a single Mom (a FABULOUS one by the way!). It sucks. Trust me no one knows this better than me blindsided.
But your little girl needs you to be okay with this reality so that you can make her ok. You can't change the circumstances for her...no matter how wrong they are. So you need to accept them so you can put all of your energy into the happiness of her and not in what's missing.
I would bet money that as soon as your little girl arrives you're focus is going to switch without you even knowing it. You'll be so in love with her and so BUSY that it will be like H who?

One last thing...I can tell you from experience (as you know) that only once you start to do this...will you really be DB'ing.
I love ya!!
J~