I wanted to ditto a couple of things posted to you already by cat, barbie, fig, and others:
Don't believe everything out of her mouth. Dont talk to her if you can avoid it. Let your L handle the nastiness.
Sadly I so agree that he isn't your friend, that he isn't and hasn't behaved like a friend. He has to be your coparent, but that is about it.
Bleh, bleh, bleh. This is hard and unnecessary.
HOwzabout gathering up a couple of your brothers to act as secret bouncers for the bday party, just in case. NO point upsetting little Ms. M, just a back up! I'm with you and everyone else on this, it's your house and your guest list. Period.
(((Lissie))) it sucks now but you know it will get better. The rollercoaster has just taken a big dip down for the moment.
