Well I am no expert as I am new to this board .... and my friends range from HD to ND....

~SO....
Personally I have been thinking about this for the past few hours. I went on a walk and the day is beautiful here and I just kept going over this one thought in my head.

SEX within a Marriage and why you will or you wont is just such a complex issue.
Can you make generalizations ... sure I bet we all can but each person is such a complex web of issues and their story is who they are sexually in my opinion.

Me? I have had some issues and when I was younger *19 and married to my ex husband. * another long complex story*
I did see a Sex Therapist... she was awesome but when she told me I would have to be on meds for the rest of my life. I got a Divorce instead.
It freed who I was sexually.

* when I was 25!

.......so I tried for 6 more years.... * I am no quitter either....

He MY EX H .....made dirty sex feel just that dirty.

Definitely NOT dirty in a hot way... I.E......When you are sweating and never smoked a Cigarette in your life but after that ML you suddenly want one!~ I honestly never had an orgasm with him for @10 years it was h*ll on Earth.........
I also did live under that Good Catholic Girls dont F*ck rule and Wives for sure they never F*ck or get dirty or kinky or just sensual for that matter.
You ever hear Women over coffee talk brag about how they F*cked the sh*t out of their H last nite....

I never have ... and IMHO its b/c *GASP* what would Sue , Mary or Jane say about me if I said that.

This issue is so complex....... I wish others would jump in and give him more input.

I myself never knew how vital sex was to my H well being..... I never knew Sex had that much power......
I am still learning....



God bless.....