I also like your list. I am going to use for myself if WW and I make it(when we make it, rather). Sounds like a list straight from her.
From what you say, H is trying his best. But he does need to learn and educate himself. Counseling, reading books, internet, and the Retro should help mucho.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."