ms ladybug concerned...MR bug wants to move home.

[ms ladybug]

Ellie, thanks for the insight on OCD. The anxiety thing makes sense. I think he would be open to vitamins. I got him on Fish Oil about a year ago for the anti-inflammitory benefits for his knee (4 knee surgeries, donor tendons, etc...). I don't know how I'd present the idea of 5-HTP. Remember, he doesn't think his OCD is a problem.

I'd love a housekeeper, the only problem is the house isn't really that DIRTY. It's more clutter stuff (mail, laundry, toys, etc...). Now that I think about it, the floors could use a good mopping, and maybe someone else could dust more often then I do. The table needs some elbow grease where the kids sit...maybe I do need a housekeeper. I'll bring it up.

Dom, I'm really bad about telling him exactly what needs to be done. My thought is, "look around." If you see dishes in the sink, do them. If you see the floor looks dirty, vaccuum or mop. Are men really that clueless?
But, you are right on about being consistent in my responses. Most of the time I try to pacify him, make him shut up by saying, "OK. I'll do that. I'll clean when I get home or when the kids go to bed." And then I don't do it EVERY TIME...then he accuses me of being a liar. So I stop doing that and tell him that I'm not going to live up to his expectation, he doesn't help, then it's an arguement. Vicious.