ms ladybug concerned...MR bug wants to move home.

[Dom R]

Seconded on the advice for a housekeeper.

You could combine it with:

- First, ask him again to help you. And btw that does not mean saying,
"I want you to help me today", but rather
"I want you to [do THIS, THIS, and THIS] today", based on the stuff he's complaining about.

- Then if he refuses, tell him, "then pay for a house keeper; I work all day myself same as you do".

Then if he refuses THAT, tell him, "Then QUIT COMPLAINING IF YOU WONT HELP IN ANY WAY!!!"

And stick to that, consistently, each and every time he complains about it.

After about 5 times of that, he may eventually figure out that you mean it.
Then either he'll shut up, or help.