on a different note - the phrase "Oh well, it's inevitable, so no point in dwelling on it. " - is not sitting well with me. if i put a theoretical spin on it - it sounds like denial and intellectualizing - but it's just bookish terms...

so i wonder if there is way for you not to dwell on it and at the same time create a way to honor and farewell your grandpa, the special place he had in your life and will always have

me, h - 40+
m-20+
s, d, ss - 20+
s, ow, pa since 04.2007
h back and forth 01.2008 - 05.2008
h decided to be w/ow 05.13.2008
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1415899&page=1&fpart=1