EDITED--ADVERTISING NOT ALLOWEDBelieve it or not...your situation ISN'T that unusual. Come join the group over there and you'll see you aren't alone.
BUT...it sounds to me like she's ashamed of sex. Like she was raised to think of it as "dirty". She probably doesn't even masturbate herself, wouldn't think of it...because "good girls don't do that."
DON'T let anyone talk you into doing anything you don't want to do. It's easy for others to tell you to cut your losses and get out of the marriage. But if you love her, as I suspect you do since you married her...things like this CAN be turned around.
Green may have some points here. Ultimately it is your decsion on what you do and you have to live with it. Read the SSM and see what it says to you and see if your wife is willing to read it. Does she acknowledge/ admit that there is an issue here? In my own experience, a very large difference in sex drives between husband and wife is almost impossible to overcome. In my mind it is nearly equal to getting married and finding out in short order that you are married to a serial cheater. This is going to sound wierd, but you may be lucky if your wife has some mental health issues. That may be at the root of her issues. Those can be fixed. If she is simply asexual, that can not (IMHO). I would like to hear what a woman says about that. It would be good to get a different perspective.
