That was what I was trying to get across. Did you ever think that if you went dim, I'm not even saying dark, husband wouldn't feel that you were such a sure thing? Also, maybe you're right in that being left alone IS exactly what they need to burn this thing out once and for all. I just don't see that anything will ever change if you're not the one that takes the reighns since your husbands emotional issues and illness run so deep.
