Puppy, I think that sounds great and I think any logical, rational H or W would agree that is the sensible thing to do. But I said something very similar to my H the first month or so after I discovered the affair, and H wasn't logical & rational. He was in love with the OW, etc. so he said it was over, but the M ending had nothing to do with the OW! Stuff like after we divorce he'll have more money, more time (the same job that he's had 9 years would suddenly allow him more time with the kids), I'd find someone new and be happy, etc.
Anyway, I am maybe cynical, but I think there is esp. a stage where at least my H was in a honeymoon phase and wouldn't listen to anything I said, articles I left, etc. Just made him more determined to do what he wanted I think and caused arguments. I think my H is just finally to starting to come back to reality a little and it's been 6 months now. Karen
