If the "ex" Wants to Have "The Talk"

[No_More_Dodo]

Well, I misinterpreted your registration date and didn't realize you've already remarried....

I guess I understand the statement that you hold friends to a higher standard. In my life, I have found that family members as well as XH's are human and deserve some kindness on my part.

I'm happy to say that I have passed that kindness on to my kids and it has helped them to actually get a relationship with their dad. He messed up, yes, he hurt me greatly, but it helps none of us to sit in judgement and hate.

I agree that if posed with him wanting to come back, all bets are off, but I know for me, forgiveness was more for me and the kids then for him.

This is only my opinion, sounds like you have what you want in life.

Take Care!

Frosty,

I believe we must extend grace and forgiveness. If not, how can we expect to be forgiven?

I have forgiven my exW for what she did. I had to do that because God mandates it. I had to do that for me. I had to do that so I could be the best H possible for my new W. For all she has been through, she deserves that.

I believe judgment comes from God's word not ours. That is how we can discern right from wrong.

I am glad to hear how things are with all of you. It will be much better for the children.

What did I want in my life? More than anything a Proverbs 31 woman. I also wanted a woman who could dress up for a company party (and look hot), have friendly intelligent conversation with my coworkers and then take me home and make mad passionate love to me all night long... I am blessed with all of it....

Take Care,

NMD