That's a tough question. I know better then to never say never in most cases. The thing is I just can't even imagine going back to that, but I have to add that it's because I don't know that I trust that he's totally changed and I would never put myself or my kids through that kind of drama again. Life is way to short not to be happy.
The only thing I would ever believe is to hear, "I'm sorry" , short and sweet. You see spouses who return all of the time but they never take responsibility for their part. I don't believe that the past should be constantly dredged up but I do believe that we have the right to feel secure enough in the relationship, and that we know they are in it for the long haul.
So far my ex really has only told me that he's not happy or that he's lonely, but he hasn't come close to saying what I need to hear. In all fairness to him he does whatever is asked monetarily which I am very thankful for and is now good with his word. When he was in MLC I couldn't believe a darn thing he said, and that is an awful way to live.
You know, I really do believe that to give a relationship a second chance, especially after all of the fallout from a divorce, we really do have to be 2 totally different people, and in so many ways, I know I am nowhere near the person I was when I started on this journey!
